Manifesting: Make Room For Your Best Relationship
By Merita Tyrell M.S, LMFT
It is impossible to generalize about the impact of a relationship any more than one can generalize about the effects of a storm. There are no guarantees that a romantic connection will be successful, and while there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, some relationships are more stable than others. How does one identify the first signs of falling in love? Despite how this question might be construed, there is no hidden meaning.
Before attempting to answer the question, close your eyes for a second and say the word love. Feel the sound of the word rolling off your tongue and immerse yourself in the sensations and emotions it evokes in your body. What we know to be true is that each person will have their own unique individual experience.
Relationship Red Flags Green Flags
Relationship red flags are common knowledge, but what about green flags in relationships? These are not talked about as much as their counterparts. However, more than ever, they are needed in the discussion. How many of you can recall receiving guidance from an authority figure on what it takes to have a successful relationship. How many of you have heard the old adages, “don’t let a man or woman lay their hands on you, don’t let them embarrass you in ic, and don’t let them have multiple partners with you.” While these are all good to know, it is essential that parents also educate their children on the qualities that they should look for before they can invest in a relationship.
How many of you have parents who set the example of what it means to be in a relationship built on love? This is not to blame anyone; however, our family of origin taught us many things we have learned to accept in our relationship. Before you decide to become romantically involved with another person, there are some questions I would like you to ponder. When was the last time you looked in the mirror and admired yourself? When was the last time you spent quality time with yourself? What do you value and love most about yourself? What are you passionate about? We often get lost in relationships because we have not truly discovered ourselves. Some of us act like carbon copies of others in our relationships. Every relationship should have realistic goals and expectations. While not all relationships will end like fairy tales, they should have the capacity for growth.
Every person in a relationship should be willing to contribute to that relationship. Relationships should not be based on what you can get but on what you can give. Every partner must be willing to give their best. It is a fact that no relationship is perfect, but what are some excellent qualities you possess as well as desire in a partner?
Relationship questionnaire
Every person should be able to ask themselves these comfortable yet uncomfortable questions.
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am I genuinely vested in the relationship?
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is this person someone I can trust wholeheartedly?
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is my partner interested in my well-being and growth?
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does my partner respect my wishes and my boundaries?
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are my needs being fulfilled?
Relationships are based on connections. Our connection to be seen, heard, and to be loved. They are the extraordinary interactions that we create. If you ever question your worth and where you stand in someone’s life, that should be all the proof you need to walk. As you walk, enjoy what is ahead and never look back.
Love is not powerless; it is not blind. You have the power to choose who you fall in love with. However, you must be willing to unload the unnecessary baggage and release any expectations you have of yourself. Draw on your experience to manifest the connections that you need.
Your next relationship is waiting patiently for you.
Merita Tyrell, M.S, LMFTMerita is a licensed marital and family therapist with over nine years of experience. She assesses and treats mental and emotional disorders, health and behavioral issues, and interpersonal problems within the family context.View her articles “Coping with Grief During the Holidays” and “Time To Call the Doctor. Is This Pain Normal” in the Love & Life category on the website https://caribbeanvybes.com/- Links:
https://caribbeanvybes.com/coping-with-grief-during-the-holidays/ - https://caribbeanvybes.com/time-to-call-the-doctor-is-this-pain-normal/